Should i ever stop fucking your husband…?

Fucking a married man …

Am i ashamed of ‘what i do’?  No – has always been the answer to this every time i have written.  I’m ashamed of the reality of the situation as it is … but i certainly do not take responsibility for it and so could never be sorry.

Men.  They will say, ‘we’re not all the same’.  Hmm i really do have to say that the very high majority are and i can see this reality so clearly every single day.  So let’s cut that shit out for starters, i’m not here to faff over the technicalities.  Furthermore,  I really don’t give a shit as to the debate surrounding whether or not they ‘can help it’… and, bear with me here, guys…this post is not about attacking you but before we can get ‘real’ about this, let’s agree that i’m not the type of girl to sit and make excuses for anyone – male or female.  So, ladies, with the same token we have to accept the fact that women cheat too … but not on the same scale as men  – plus, that’s not what this blog is about…please feel free to read a different blog if you’d like to read about unfaithful women -simple, right!

I hear my friends saying: well if the women refused to cheat with them then they couldn’t cheat – no, no and fucking NO.  That is so idealistic.  They, the person cheating, is the only person responsible for THEIR actions.  There is nothing that any other person can do, or not do, that will ever change that.

Heartbroken- the sheer fucking devastation to find that the man you have shared your life with has cheated.  Fucking awful.  How do i know; because it’s happened to me.  Should i therefore know better than to enter into a job that involves fucking married men?   No – because nothing that’s happened to me; nothing that’s happening to me; nor anything that will happen to me will stop the reality that is.  Most men are selfish fucking twats.

I believe in building women up but i don’t believe that a universal world-wide womanhood pledge, never to sleep with a taken man, is going to be a: realistic nor b: a solution.

You say that my job makes me bias, no.  You may say that my job means that i’m more likely to come into contact with ‘that type of man’ and so my viewpoint is warped.  I say no to that too.  I say no because before i started escorting, i my experience so far had taught me what (most) men are like.  There are only two men in my life that were wonderful and truly amazing: my grandad and my great uncle; both are sadly not here anymore.  They were from a different generation.  Men are not just different now but the world is different.

So the cheated woman cries, screams, shouts, gets vengeful …yes, all of those things.  But again, these are all outsider perspectives of the scorned woman; women are denied the right to be fucked off, furious, livid and seething.  They are denied it again for selfish reasons; because society can’t be arsed with it – so they stigmatize it: she’s a bitter twisted, psychopath that can’t move on…no wonder he cheated.  BANG.  Don’t get me wrong, although women are entitled to feel this way, after a while it becomes boring and there has to be the ability to move on.  Not move on to prove to others that you’re moving on – but just MOVE ON in real terms, live your fucking life…the loser is not worth it – whatever!

If we’re to talk about the reality of things, my last paragraph is actually pile of horseshit.  She’s hurt; she’s in disbelief and didn’t even think he was unhappy; her world as she knows it is not just different but destroyed; she’s attacked; a foreign attacker has been invited in to her world by the very person they trusted the most; she’s ashamed; she is tired but can’t sleep; she’s tormented; she’s utterly tortured; she’s sick (physically); she can’t eat; she wishes her heart and lungs would stop just to escape this hell; her hair falls out; she loses weight; she is broken.  In her eyes her husband is worse than dead.  If he were dead, he wouldn’t have chosen to destroy her then leave.

BUT … another reality … you can kick, scream and have a huge meltdown of epic proportions but it won’t change who your husband is … not ‘who he has become’, but who he has been all along.  The whore who he cheated with wasn’t the one who married you, she’s likely to be single and isn’t the one who owes you loyalty – that’s your husband.  She is not worth your energy in any way shape or form.

The only way i can build other women up, isn’t by not sleeping with their husband…it’s by giving them the honesty that (most) men just simply don’t possess.  All (most) Men cheat.  If they haven’t cheated yet, they are (most likely) only ever a matter of time away from doing so.  If you think your husband hasn’t cheated, you’re (most likely) wrong.

We want men to be something that they simply ARE NOT.  We want them to be more concerned with building a home with us, with creating and bring up children … but their deepest darkest desires are so much different.  The more you push these things, your soppy ideals down their throat, the further they move towards wanting the oposite and the scariest thing is … you won’t even see it happening.

MEN DON’T WANT THE SAME THINGS AS WOMEN and – very often women dislike the things that men want.  Sex is one of those things.  Men want sex for its mechanics; women want sex for creating babies.  The only difference here is that as women, we force our ideals on to men as being the ‘right’ way of doing things, the ‘good’ way of living life.  This is making men feel ashamed for liking sex purely for the sake of it, for the pleasure it brings.  This social ideal allows women to (wrongfully) assume the upper hand; almost withhold the innate pleasure of sex … she essentially extinguishes DESIRE.

I have a lot of friends who are happy with a relationship where the man accepts that sex is a no no – they have created a situation whereby they are happy even though they know that it is at the expense of an unfulfilled husband…and we think men are selfish…hmmmm.

The solution to this is another harsh reality.  You can’t change anyone.  If you’re the type of woman who has a hole in her heart that can only be filled with the typical, what i have come to see as utter bull shit, ‘perfect’ happy, fluffy, sparkly, family life…then be prepared to be hurt.  Lose yourself in the fantasy for now but it simply does not exist.  Okay, biologically (most) women are driven to want those things but you have to train your mind to accept the reality.  NEVER RELY UPON ANYONE ELSE TO SECURE YOUR HAPPINESS.  Not even your children; they are individuals with their own set of needs and will eventually have their own lives and families.  If you live through your children and lose your identity as an individual … that’s a: pathetic, b: boring and c: seriously unattractive.  Please don’t blame your husband for checking-out of being a husband if you have officially stabbed and murdered the wife and partner he fell in love with.

YOU HAVE TO LOOK INSIDE OF YOURSELF.  Please yourself; be selfish (think like a man hahaha); put yourself first; break yourself down and find the strength to build yourself up; create your own happiness; create a beautiful life; don’t rely on anyone else; indulge in pleasures; break the rules … you may think that doing this would be a total antidote for a healthy relationship but IRONICALLY … men are attracted by selfishness, by a woman that knows what she wants…FUCKED UP – MOST DEFINITELY but it doesn’t stop it from being the reality.

Am i doing you a favour by not fucking your husband  – absolutely not … it makes not an ounce of difference to the reality.   If anything, if you’re willing to bury your head in the sand and convince yourself that your husband accepts a sexless relationship … then don’t expect me to subscribe to that warped little world – wake up, men like sex!  If anything, i know ‘why’ (most) men do what they do … i’ve allowed myself to be selfish and it’s so fucking good.  Choosing, for whatever reason, NOT to live my life exactly how i want to … won’t change a fucking thing about your husband and what he likes getting up to behind your back.  And to all you men out there, the reality doesn’t make me love you any less…just be aware that a very small number of women – have seen the light and can play your ass at your own game like a complete goddess hustler!!

Bring it on … 😉

 

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3 Replies to “Should i ever stop fucking your husband…?”

  1. Some women love sex too … Some women, maybe a minority, are denied sex in a relationship. Its amazing what you learn about yourself when you indulge in the carnal arts.

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    1. It’s so true, Sinisa…so true. You know, i was in a relationship with a guy i loved for 10 years, from being 15. I loved him so much but he didn’t have any sex drive – it destroyed a real deep and such fundamental part of me daily – sex is integral to women too…especially when denied xx

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